Pigskinkids's Blog

Playing time is often an issue with teams.  As noted in question 4 above, it is good to understand the rules concerning playing time before making the initial decision for your child to play in a league.  If you feel that the coach is not adhering to the league rules concerning playing time, make sure you are observing exactly what is happening in games.  Sometimes we may “think” our child isn’t getting enough playing time when, in fact, they are.  If you feel there is a problem, I would suggest you first talk with your child and ask him what he thinks and what the coach has said to him. This may give you some insight into what is happening on the bench or in the locker room.  If you continue to believe this is an issue which needs to be addressed with the coach, encourage your child to talk to the coach himself. Help your child learn how to approach the coach and ask for what he wants. This is a great opportunity for a child to gain self-confidence and develop communication skills he will need in the future.  If your child is unwilling or incapable of discussing the issue with the coach himself, the next course of action would be for you to talk with the coach.  Ask questions and listen to what the coach has to say.  A confrontational manner will make it more difficult to resolve the issue quickly, so remain positive in your approach and communication.  Above all, use this opportunity to help your child learn a life lesson that life is not always fair but he must keep working to improve and remain a team player in spite of the situation.